Perhaps there is no issue is as
significance to friend as honesty. Despite various responses people may have on
the topic concerning the issue regarding whether it is impossible to be
completely honest with friend. I, given the chance, deem that albeit honesty
play a crucial role in friendship, sometimes people cannot tell all the truth
to friends.
In the first place, honesty sometimes will
bring about the negative emotion from friend. Take an example, when I buy a new
car, new house or get promotion in career, we are absolutely inclined to share
the overjoyed feeling with my friend. But all these outcome based on the fact
that my friend has the same financial situation or social status as mine. So
let us imagine what will come about if my friend doesn’t have the familiar
condition. If he hear about the news that I have bought new car or new house
but he cannot purchase the same thing, he will produce some negative emotion
like envy naturally. Sooner or later, he will not share the feelings with me
anymore because he thought that he and me are in different world, and it is
impossible to let me consider from his angle. In the meantime, our friendship
broke down due to the honesty.
Additionally, honesty will leads
misunderstanding to relationship. For instance, if your friend A complained
about your friend B to you, and you want to be completely honest to B, so you
tell all the truth to B. The situation will be really awful. B will get angry
that you and A are talking him behind his back, and A will also be really mad
about the fact you published his secret. The relationship between you and A, B
will be shattered. In that case, the totally honesty will do harmful to
friendship and if you are literally care about the relationship, It is
impossible to be completely honest to friend.
Some people will argue that the honesty is
basically moral to friend, but from my perspective, compared to the recklessly
honesty, the responsibility of which we can protect our friends from the
harmful truth is more vital. After ruminating over all these factor, I maintain
that it is impossible to be completely honest to friend and keeping the balance
between hiding some truth and being honest is necessary, only in this way can
we friendship last forever.
